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Two beers.. couple of friends
was all it took to celeberate..
occasions came and went,
not that we stopped short to invent

Life was like this forever
since the begenning of the time
parties giggles dances
boozing panting pranks

I ain't no drunk
hooked on to some to some shit
yup i need a high
and life gave me a hit

thought i'll mellow,
be upright types as i grow
may be some girl will come
and get a man out of the young

but that was not to happen
the brat says never die
parties giggles dances
boozing panting pranks
this is how shall i die.

http://laurenceplatt.home.att.net/wernererhard/fightfle.html

There are three possible responses to real or imaginary challenges:

fight,
flee, or
face up.
It's the third possible response that interests me. What facing up really is is becoming present to the situation. The first two, fight or flight, are for the most part automatic responses. There's nothing wrong with either of them. We are constructed to respond that way from time to time. That is what ensures our safety and our survival. Literally, that's what comes with the package. But what facing up brings which is new, which doesn't come with the package is accountability, responsibility, and possibility. This is who I am. This is what's happening. I am responsible for this. Now what?

These realizations are the very stuff of transformed living. They do not create themselves, neither do you have a right to them, and neither are they easy to wrestle with. If transformation were easy, wouldn't the entire world be transformed by now?

Ask: What is my choice here? What possibility can I invent here? Whatever the answers to these questions are, asking them allows something new to emerge, something more than simply a hormonal endrocrinal keyed response for which no one except your own clockworkness can take any credit.

Notice you can't answer these questions authentically and neither will anything new show up until you get present to the situation and face up to the challenge - fight and flight are not options. It's not just that you can't have a worthwhile inquiry when no one is at home. It's that the problem state, whatever the problem is, is always axiomatically congruent with the über-conversation "this isn't it". Simply by facing up to it, the problem state is vanquished. Nothing changes out there, yet the missing link - presence (or listening, if you will) - returns. Someone is at home. The train is in the station. It is OK the way it is, and there is choice in the matter of the future again.

What stops you living a life you love is not the past you had but the future you don't have. What makes for living a life you love is inventing a future worth living into.

Werner says "You can have what you want or you can have the reasons you don't have what you want.". Werner also says "What you got is what you chose. To move on, choose it.".